Tuesday, October 04, 2005
One, Two...Oh Let's Make it Three!
It was never a secret that we wanted three kids, until we had 2 in 15 months. For some people that is not a challenge- for me- the planner, the detail person, the organized one- that was definitely something hard to wrap my tightly wound brain around. Luckily for me, we got well behaved babies (as toddlers they have their moments) and I started to see the incredible advantage to having two in two years. We have built-in playmates 24 hours a day, they like the same things and the same people, and frankly, I'll be done with diapers sooner than I planned!
Until about mid-summer if asked, I was definitely set on two kids. I wasn't sure why, but that was always the answer that popped out of my mouth. So many of my friends had real reasons why they were done- they felt fulfilled with two or they were just thrilled to have one of each and wanted nothing more. Although I touted that I was "done" I did not have any of these concrete reasons why.
Over the past month SJ and I have have come to the conclusion that although we feel we have everything we have ever wanted in our two kids, we would like a third to complete the picture. The strange thing is that we have NO desire to see a third version of our gene-pool cocktail. (Not to mention, I am not thrilled at the prospect of a pregnancy in a three story house) So I am very excited to tell you that we have decided to adopt a little girl from China. We would love another daughter and we have talked for many years about the desire to bring a child-in-need into our family. It is now falling into place. The only way we can seem to describe it, is that it just feels right.
I am sure that most of you are aware of the plight of baby girls in China. It is a sad sad story that did not begin with the one child policy in the 1980's but in fact began with the writings of Confucius thousands of years ago. It is a long and complicated story of a patriarchal society mired down by tradition, an unmanageably large population, and a desire to break through into the world marketplace.
Over the next few weeks and months I will post information on China, the adoption process, and links I think you all might like to see. The adoption will be roughly a 12 month process. We will probably be placed with a little girl around the age of 1 and since we would like B to be about 4 when we travel to China we will start this process in February or March of 2006. More later... SP