Tuesday, October 04, 2005

One, Two...Oh Let's Make it Three!



It was never a secret that we wanted three kids, until we had 2 in 15 months. For some people that is not a challenge- for me- the planner, the detail person, the organized one- that was definitely something hard to wrap my tightly wound brain around. Luckily for me, we got well behaved babies (as toddlers they have their moments) and I started to see the incredible advantage to having two in two years. We have built-in playmates 24 hours a day, they like the same things and the same people, and frankly, I'll be done with diapers sooner than I planned!

Until about mid-summer if asked, I was definitely set on two kids. I wasn't sure why, but that was always the answer that popped out of my mouth. So many of my friends had real reasons why they were done- they felt fulfilled with two or they were just thrilled to have one of each and wanted nothing more. Although I touted that I was "done" I did not have any of these concrete reasons why.

Over the past month SJ and I have have come to the conclusion that although we feel we have everything we have ever wanted in our two kids, we would like a third to complete the picture. The strange thing is that we have NO desire to see a third version of our gene-pool cocktail. (Not to mention, I am not thrilled at the prospect of a pregnancy in a three story house) So I am very excited to tell you that we have decided to adopt a little girl from China. We would love another daughter and we have talked for many years about the desire to bring a child-in-need into our family. It is now falling into place. The only way we can seem to describe it, is that it just feels right.

I am sure that most of you are aware of the plight of baby girls in China. It is a sad sad story that did not begin with the one child policy in the 1980's but in fact began with the writings of Confucius thousands of years ago. It is a long and complicated story of a patriarchal society mired down by tradition, an unmanageably large population, and a desire to break through into the world marketplace.

Over the next few weeks and months I will post information on China, the adoption process, and links I think you all might like to see. The adoption will be roughly a 12 month process. We will probably be placed with a little girl around the age of 1 and since we would like B to be about 4 when we travel to China we will start this process in February or March of 2006. More later... SP

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

We are so happy and proud of you. This little girl is so lucky and she doesn't even know it - we are here for you and so thrilled to share this entire experience with you!

Anonymous said...

What a neat site...and this is only the beginning...great work! Mom and Dad

Susan said...

Thanks for visiting my blog, with the news of my recent referral for my little girl in China. What a journey you are in for...ups and downs and waiting and waiting....but when you get the picture of that little one WOW - it is truly amazing. I'll look forward to hearing wonderful things about your adoption process and ultimately your new precious little one.